On Fatherhood

Daddy, Dad, Step-Father, Papa, Papi, Pops, Dada. There are countless names the world over used to identify fathers.

Sure, Fathers do not carry babies in utero or give birth to children. Those are special blessings given to woman, mother. There nevertheless are enormous responsibilities given to fathers.

Fathers are called to be providers, protectors, and the priests of their homes. Children need their fathers and women need husbands to serve responsibly in these capacities.

Countless women have served faithfully in the role of provider, protecter, and praying mother over their households. Their sacrifices should never be overlooked, devalued, or underestimated. Timothy was raised by his mother Eunice and his grandmother Lois after his father died. The role these women played in the life of Timothy is insurmountable. In the absence of these godly women, Timothy may not have become of one the greatest carriers of the gospel. Later the apostle Paul stood in the gap to mentor and help Timothy move into his destiny, his place of inheritance.

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The role of father however, is one which cannot be replicated. It is best executed under godly leadership and counsel. There is a special covering and there are special blessings and lessons which fathers can impart to their children. We pray that our Fathers will endeavor to/or continue to serve faithfully in their God given roles.

 

Negative Interpretations

Poor communication can decimate a relationship. Whether it is a courtship, marriage, familial, or friendship. Negative interpretations are a component of a poor communication style.

Negative Interpretations are unfair assumptions about what another person is thinking. When you engage in negative interpretations you may hear things more negatively than what was intended. You may believe the worst instead of the best in others. You may only see what you expect to see.

A example of a negative interpretation is: “He is purposely late. He knows I get upset when he is late and since we had a disagreement, he is doing this to further upset me.”

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As oppose to a non negative interpretation such as: “He probably got stuck in traffic.”

Perhaps you recognize that you utilize negative interpretations. Consider how negative interpretations have adversely affected your relationships. Commit to changing your communication patterns. Find a trusted advisor or counselor to journey through this patch with you. We also would love to journey with you. Share how we can further support you. Send us a PM on Facebook or via our website at http://www.royallyrelational.org

Dare To Be…

We are still a few weeks from a new year and it’s probably not your midlife birthday. So this is not about a New Year’s resolution or working through a midlife crisis. It is an opportunity for some self-introspection. So look closely.

Dare to be different. Dare to step out by faith. Dare to start a women’s or men’s group. Ministry opportunity. Business. Career advancement. Dare to relinquish rigid family customs. Dare to step into the unknown place. Dare to do what God has placed in your heart.

We at Royally Relational join with you in prayer as you step out by faith. We trust that you will respond to the call God placed on your life in this season.

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For Meditation: The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Psalms‬ ‭37:23‬ ‭‬‬

On Motherhood

Pregnancy, infertility, still births, rainbow babies, diapers, sleepless nights, potty training, homework, sickness, discipline, homeschool, sports, ballet, music lessons, graduations, high school, peer groups, college admissions, marriage, job interviews, and the list goes on and on.

Motherhood is not an easy job. It is a rewarding profession with many points of adjustments. Sometimes it’s a tough road and many of us wished we had a manual or were afforded a well needed time out. Sometimes we just need someone to reach out and say “Girl I’m tired too!” and “How are we going to make it through ——?” (fill in the blank).

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Let’s stand with each other and persistently share words of encouragement. Pray with a fellow mom, laugh, and cry together. No mom should have to do life in the absence of genuine love and support from another adult. Seek out a single mother, a busy mother, and even the mother that seems to have it all put together. Life is universal to everyone. Chances are we are enduring or have endured similar situations. Let’s journey together.

Your Legacy

How will your children remember you?

Take a moment to reflect on the memories you have of your own parents?

The impressions we make have lifetime implications on our children. These will affect their perceptions of this world, their work ethics, the type of friends they choose, and the persons they choose to be their husbands or wives respectively.

Work generally is a priority in our lives and we seem to get busy as overpacked suitcases busting out of the seams. Is there room for anything or anyone else?

God holds us responsible for the children He entrusted to us. Our children should be one of our foremost ministry priorities. Do not fall asleep at the wheel of parenting.

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Here are some ways that you can love and encourage your children:

1) Focused Attention: Give them time and make them a priority.

2) Individual Affirmation: Be their cheerleader. Accept and encourage their unique individuality.

3) Genuine Appreciation: Celebrate the good and extend patience with their growing edges.

4) Provide Affection: Demonstrate this in tangible ways so they can feel and uniquely experience being loved.

Our children need us to be encouragers. Would you rather them receive love and encouragement from others except you? Think about it and decide what you will sustain or do differently for your children today. The starting point is Jesus Christ and we must apply His demonstrated love with the parental message of love in our own families.

Pivot

Few things can shake your foundation and change the course of your life like chronic pain, a life threatening diagnosis, a natural disaster, the death of a loved one, or the loss of a close relationship.

In the midst of these situations you may experience feelings of loneliness, sadness, hurt, frustration, confusion, and anger. If you are currently facing one of these situations you may be asking, “Why me?”, “Where do I go from here?” or “What’s next for my life?”

Many of us have asked the same questions. I surmise we will not find all the answers to our questions this side of heaven. While that can be disappointing, may I suggest another perspective?

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Perhaps this can be your time to pivot. This can be a new beginning. This may not be the life you envisioned. God however, is not a bit surprised by your circumstances.

Rest confidently knowing that God is with you as you step out on faith and continue your journey on a new road.

For Meditation: “Those who trust in the Lord are as secure as Mount Zion; they will not be defeated but will endure forever. Just as the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the LORD surrounds his people, both now and forever.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭125:1-2‬ ‭‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

May He perpetually wrap you in His arms.

Take The Gift

The gift of a relationship may not come in the package you expected. The needed friendship may not come from the person you anticipated. Many times our expectations of an individual do not come to fruition. The person God positions to bless us may be one that is unexpected and unanticipated. But…take the gift.

While we are busy being enamored by a person’s physique or style of dress, God has already evaluated their hearts, and consequently their fit into or not into our life, purpose, and destiny. So look deeper. Look beyond surface level variables.

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For Meditation: But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭16:7‬ ‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Remember…take the gift!

Change

Change. It is a simple word with enormous aftereffects. Several definitions of change include (a) to make different; (b) to make a shift from one to another; and (c) to undergo a modification (Merriam-Webster, n.d.). Most people are fearful or reluctant to change. There are some who simply are comfortable with their lifestyle. Still there are others who are plagued with ignorance. So for these two groups of individuals, in the absence of an awareness of alternatives, life is fine (or at least so they say).

Many people however, desire change at some point in their lives. Change can be fairly simple or quite difficult. It depends on what is to be changed, how it can be changed, and when it can be changed.

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So how does change occur? In simplicity, a person has to want to change. Sometimes this is a difficult concept to grasp especially if we desperately desire to see change in the life of a loved one. At times, the change we believe our loved ones should undergo or the rate at which this change should occur differs. This can result in frustration by all involved.

Remember, change is a procedural objective rather than a onetime occurrence. In essence, real change takes time. So be patient with yourself and your loved ones. Give lots of grace, love, and lend support.