Change. It is a simple word with enormous aftereffects. Several definitions of change include (a) to make different; (b) to make a shift from one to another; and (c) to undergo a modification (Merriam-Webster, n.d.). Most people are fearful or reluctant to change. There are some who simply are comfortable with their lifestyle. Still there are others who are plagued with ignorance. So for these two groups of individuals, in the absence of an awareness of alternatives, life is fine (or at least so they say).
Many people however, desire change at some point in their lives. Change can be fairly simple or quite difficult. It depends on what is to be changed, how it can be changed, and when it can be changed.
So how does change occur? In simplicity, a person has to want to change. Sometimes this is a difficult concept to grasp especially if we desperately desire to see change in the life of a loved one. At times, the change we believe our loved ones should undergo or the rate at which this change should occur differs. This can result in frustration by all involved.
Remember, change is a procedural objective rather than a onetime occurrence. In essence, real change takes time. So be patient with yourself and your loved ones. Give lots of grace, love, and lend support.
Dr. Reneé A. Foyou
Reneé loves to listen to, document, and share individual life stories. She is also very passionate about journeying with couples and individuals to relational wellness. Intercessory prayer is an integral part of her work. She enjoys teaching, speaking, counseling, coaching, mentoring, conducting research, and writing.
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