Total Chaos?

There is a constant battle in my home between cleanliness and play. I’m caught between the two sides. Do I run a tight shift and maintain a clean house or…do I allow daily play involving every toy and non toy in my house? 🤔 Of course I’m exaggerating with the latter statement but it seems like my house becomes a makeshift playground in the blink of an eye. 🤷🏽‍♀️


Some of you might actually feel my pain. I love my littles. And they sure find ways to circumvent the standard of cleanliness and test my patience. It’s as if they had a talk with God and collectively forged a plan to keep me in prayer. Because many days I survive the mess, in the absence of a colossal meltdown, only through prayer. 


I’ve discovered that it helps to have perspective of where you are, what season you are in, and who God placed in your life. Our lives have meaning. We all have purpose. We aren’t simply on this planet to make the most of life until we die.


Your life HAS meaning.

You HAVE purpose.

God HAS a plan for you.

It’s a plan He forged even before you were conceived. And daily He engages every aspect of that plan for your life. Think about that. God of the universe cares so much about you such that He desires to journey with you EVERY DAY.


He only asks you to surrender you own plans and to fully engage His plan. Because His plan is a trillion times infinity better than any plan you could imagine. 


For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 NLT


Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Ephesians 3:20 NLT


These truths help us not only to endure but also to joyfully overcome.  When we engage these biblical truths our perspectives change. Because then we move from carnal finite thinking to spiritual eternal wisdom. 


I recently shared a meal with an elderly woman. She no longer has little children living in her home. Her children are grown up and most moved away to pursue employment opportunities. She is also a grandmother but seldom sees her grandchildren in person. Her visits with her children and grandchildren she noted, were not often enough. She nevertheless was filed with delight as she recounted the stories of her children’s upbringing. I was pleasantly surprised as she lovingly inquired about my children and their current stages of development. 


Her demeanor provided me with a new perspective. She too didn’t enjoy the daily mess created by her children. But the absence of the mess meant the absence of children in her home. I went home after that dinner and hugged and kissed my children. Once again, I cleaned up their mess after they went to bed that evening. 


There is full assurance that I’ll have a mess in my home the next morning. But I’ve resolved to take the mess if it means I enjoy the blessings of physically embracing my children on a daily basis. 


So here I am…yet again sitting in toddler heaven but Mommy chaos. Or, with reframing, I’m blessed to have love, laughter, hugs, kisses, well bodies, and mostly importantly, God’s plan. 


So I now invite you to look around, take notice of your life, evaluate the relationships which encircle you, and reframe your perspective. 


In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.   1 Thessalonians 5:18 KJV



2473EEE1-95A5-4064-BE32-1190091C1D25Dr. Reneé A. Foyou

Reneé loves to listen to, document, and share individual life stories. She is also very passionate about journeying with couples and individuals to relational wellness. Intercessory prayer is an integral part of her work. She enjoys teaching, speaking, counseling, coaching, mentoring, conducting research, and writing.

You can learn more about Reneé’s work here.


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